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Whoever It's More Important To, Wins

I have this really simple rule that I use in my relationships:

"Whoever it's more important to, wins."

Oh, but it seems so awfully simple, doesn't it?

Yet when you really, really ponder this relationship rule, it's actually quite complex.

Much of the friction in relationships stems from two people trying to do things their way.  One partner wants the thermostat at 79, the other wants it at 72.  One partner is financially conservative, the other is aggressive.  I could go on, but you get my drift, right?

I have this really simple rule that I use in my relationships: "Whoever it's more important to, wins." Oh, but it seems so awfully simple, doesn't it? Yet when you really, really ponder this relationship rule, it's actually quite complex. Much of the friction in relationships stems from two people trying to do things their way.  One partner wants the thermostat at 79, the other wants it at 72.  One partner is financially conservative, the other is aggressive.  I could go on, but you get my drift, right? So applying the rule, let's start with the temperature.  Who's it truly more important to? See, it gets tricky, right?  Obviously you think it's more important to you to have it at 72, because that's your preference.  But if you have enough trust & love in your relationship, then you can look beyond your preference and apply the rule.  But this will only work if there is enough trust & love in your relationship.  Obviously if someone is in a relationship to take advantage of you, they'll never put your needs before theirs. See, this isn't easy.  But you can apply the rule to absolutely everything.    Where do you go for dinner... who's it more important to?  Let them decide.  I even say it out loud when I'm struggling with an issue.   Next time you're fighting with your partner about whether or not to buy that bigscreen TV, ask each other who the issue is more important to and let that person win.  And if you can't give in, then you should re-evaluate your relationship. Oh, and here's a little aside, completely unrelated to my point above.   I also have another 'relationship saver' that I use (I got this from our friends Carlo & Michee).   Whenever we're fighting, if one of us whistles at the other person, that person has to shake his or her butt.  Yes it sounds super dumb & corny but let me tell you, nothing relieves the tension of a fight with your woman like a little butt shake.  Try it sometime!  But in order for that to work, the two of you have to agree that "no matter what, what what", you'll do the shake.  No matter how angry you are.  :)

What if organization and execution were the same thing?

Almost everyone I know is busy as hell. Running companies, contracting, doing creative work, and keeping a huge mix of projects going on.

Keeping busy is good, but sometimes it turns into a tragedy where you've got your head down doing work and duties, but you never get some of that real juice out of your life that you're wanting.

And many of the busy people I know -- myself included -- periodically have a day where they snap back to reality and really feel it for the first time in a while. "Oh god, I'm out of shape, my energy is low, I feel like crap, I'm not doing some of the key projects I love, I'm passing up a lot of really big opportunities stuck in the grind, I'm neglecting my hobbies and what I want to train... and for what?"

This applies just as much to entrepreneurs as people on salary, maybe even moreso. It's very easy as an entrepreneur or executive to get caught up in running around, getting stuck in the "errands" of business, dealing with what's on fire, and really neglecting the really expansionary projects that aren't urgent, your health, and maybe worst of all -- forgetting to have fun.

Is there an answer? Read on...

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