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Whoever It's More Important To, Wins

I have this really simple rule that I use in my relationships:

"Whoever it's more important to, wins."

Oh, but it seems so awfully simple, doesn't it?

Yet when you really, really ponder this relationship rule, it's actually quite complex.

Much of the friction in relationships stems from two people trying to do things their way.  One partner wants the thermostat at 79, the other wants it at 72.  One partner is financially conservative, the other is aggressive.  I could go on, but you get my drift, right?

I have this really simple rule that I use in my relationships: "Whoever it's more important to, wins." Oh, but it seems so awfully simple, doesn't it? Yet when you really, really ponder this relationship rule, it's actually quite complex. Much of the friction in relationships stems from two people trying to do things their way.  One partner wants the thermostat at 79, the other wants it at 72.  One partner is financially conservative, the other is aggressive.  I could go on, but you get my drift, right? So applying the rule, let's start with the temperature.  Who's it truly more important to? See, it gets tricky, right?  Obviously you think it's more important to you to have it at 72, because that's your preference.  But if you have enough trust & love in your relationship, then you can look beyond your preference and apply the rule.  But this will only work if there is enough trust & love in your relationship.  Obviously if someone is in a relationship to take advantage of you, they'll never put your needs before theirs. See, this isn't easy.  But you can apply the rule to absolutely everything.    Where do you go for dinner... who's it more important to?  Let them decide.  I even say it out loud when I'm struggling with an issue.   Next time you're fighting with your partner about whether or not to buy that bigscreen TV, ask each other who the issue is more important to and let that person win.  And if you can't give in, then you should re-evaluate your relationship. Oh, and here's a little aside, completely unrelated to my point above.   I also have another 'relationship saver' that I use (I got this from our friends Carlo & Michee).   Whenever we're fighting, if one of us whistles at the other person, that person has to shake his or her butt.  Yes it sounds super dumb & corny but let me tell you, nothing relieves the tension of a fight with your woman like a little butt shake.  Try it sometime!  But in order for that to work, the two of you have to agree that "no matter what, what what", you'll do the shake.  No matter how angry you are.  :)

Massive Twitter Secret: Get 2000+ Followers

So I'm actually pretty reluctant to post this Twitter secret I've figured out, because it's actually a pretty amazing secret, but in the spirit of always being as open as possible, here goes.  Plus, I owe an explanation to Mark Boslet of the blog TechPulse360 of how I did it (whom I met while presenting at the Dow Jones Wireless Innovation Conference today), and another of my guiding principles is always to blog about something whenever possible (Henry Ford-style) so I don't have to repeat myself.

So here's how to get 2,000 plus followers in 10 days(ish):

(Caveat, I'm only at 664 followers as I write this, but I've only been at it for two days, so I think 2000+ in 10 days is totally achievable)

(Second caveat - you may not want to have 2000 followers.  More is not necessarily better, except when it is.  It's up to you.)

OK so I am assuming you have a Twitter account already.  And maybe you've made a bunch of updates, but you just don't have that many followers and would like more.

So I'm actually pretty reluctant to post this Twitter secret I've figured out, because it's actually a pretty amazing secret, but in the spirit of always being as open as possible, here goes.  Plus, I owe an explanation to Mark Boslet of the blog TechPulse360 of how I did it (whom I met while presenting at the Dow Jones Wireless Innovation Conference today), and another of my guiding principles is always to blog about something whenever possible (Henry Ford-style) so I don't have to repeat myself. So here's how to get 2,000 plus followers in 10 days(ish): (Caveat, I'm only at 664 followers as I write this, but I've only been at it for two days, so I think 2000+ in 10 days is totally achievable) (Second caveat - you may not want to have 2000 followers.  More is not necessarily better, except when it is.  It's up to you.) OK so I am assuming you have a Twitter account already.  And maybe you've made a bunch of updates, but you just don't have that many followers and would like more. So the first thing you should do is head over to Twollo.com (note - not twollow.com - no "w" at the end! Important).  They have a stupendously amazing feature that lets you automatically follow up to 500 people for any keyword topic of interest.  So if you like cars, for example, just tell Twollo to have you follow anyone who twitters about cars. Within a day or two you'll be following several thousand people.  About 30% of them will follow you back. But there's a catch:  Twitter only lets you follow 2,000 people.  Actually it's more complicated than that.  This blog does a good job of explaining it, so read & understand it. So now you'll need a bulk-unfollow program to get rid of all the people you followed that didn't follow you back. Presto, enter Twitter Karma.  It lets you look up all the people you're following but aren't following you back.  You just have to show "Only Following" and then "Bulk Unfollow" at the bottom. Presto, your Twitterverse should now be equalized once again.  And the best part is, Twollo should automatically keep adding people you follow (that's what it does) so you just have to manually run Twitter Karma whenever you get up to 2,000 following to clean it out, and your overall number of followers will keep increasing! Enjoy. PS it helps if you have great content, but surprisingly it's really not necessary.  For example, I got 279 followers forwww.Twitter.com/dcMOMO with only 3 updates!